Outsiders

Which is the better word to describe my objective state of ever being on the outside, a sort of being always-a-bridesmaid-never-a-bride, or possibly a state of always-a-groomsman-never-a-groom? "Queue guest", "queue stander"? This refers to the habit of standing in line at various events and happenings while celebs are squired in by the handsel wave of the hand of the people in charge of the doorway to to club, the "line-masters". No? How about "fence sitter, fence guest, or fence gazer"? This refers to the state where one's sense of propinquity to a celeb event is diminished somewhat by being "collandered" or "cheese clothed" or "strainerized" off to the distance by the interposition of a fence. No? How about "cable muncher, cable inmate, or cable-eyed" to describe those who do not even rise to the occassion, and decide to stay home and be subjected to the indignity of their own inadequacies, which render them hors de "red carpet celeb event". "Inmate" makes a parallel between cable tv and a dafter, or mental institution. "Cable-eyed" is sort of a crossed eye condition. My choice is Zaungast. That is the word, but in German and possibly Yiddish: a fence guest. Such as in, "Suddenly, I felt how far I had travelled from my youth. I was no longer part of this little community. A chill of zaungastlichkeit swept over me." zaungastlich: adjective. fence-guest-like. zaungastlichkeit: noun. state of being like a fence-guest. Thus, I am a zaungast, feel like a schlub, and act like a schlemiel. A yenta, however, is never a zaungast. Neither is a momzer. Nor an upstairsicke if you mean "upstairs" with a sense of superiority. They would go right through the fence and not let themselves be marginalized.